So watch yourselves. “If your brother or sister sins against you, rebuke them; and if they repent, forgive them. 4 Even if they sin against you seven times in a day and seven times come back to you saying ‘I repent,’ you must forgive them.”
If there is one ingredient that will keep the relationship we are celebrating this season, it is the practice of forgiveness. When we forgive one another, we clean our hearts and minds of whatever they did to us that brought us some hurt or pain or some other discomfort. Jesus knew that we would offend each other and that is why He instituted forgiveness.
We all know that our Christian life itself started with forgiveness. God decided to forgive all our sins, and He did so through a means by which it would be difficult for Him not to forgive us – by letting His Son bear the punishment for our sins. By that, God bound Himself to forgive us at any cost.
In our interpersonal relationships in general, forgiveness is key. When it comes to relationship with our spouses, forgiveness becomes even more crucial. People who are farther away from you physically may have little opportunity to offend you; but your spouse who lives with you in the same house day after day has more opportunities to offend you.
True love does not reward evil with evil. Love does not keep account of wrongs waiting one day to retaliate. True love forgives and forgives till one loses count of how many times one has been offended by the other party. That is the meaning of Jesus’ response to Peter when he asked, “How many times shall I forgive my brother?”
The relationships that would last are the ones where husband and wife have both learned to live in constant reconciliation with each other through forgiving each other.
1. Thank God for the human relationships He has given you, and if you are married, for your spouse in particular. Show gratitude to God for having someone to share your life with.
2. Ask God to give you the grace to forgive your spouse anytime he or she offends you, and ask for help to forget instead of remembering and bringing up your spouse’s wrong doings against you at the slightest opportunity.
3.Father, please give me Your heart of forgiveness so I can live with my spouse in true love and reconciliation.
I declare that I am capable of forgiving people who offend me no matter the offence. God’s heart of forgiveness is my portion and I am well able to forgive the most troublesome person in my life. I let go of all forms of hurts and bitterness and I let God into my circumstances in the name of Jesus.